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Little Miss Sunshine

Hey folks it been a while! A very long while. I haven’t been here in ages but well I’m here now. A lot has been happening. Well not a lot but one major thing happened! I had a little girl. Yay. She’s the most precious thing ever. She is happy baby, she loves smiling and she has the most gorgeous smile. I should say she got that from me :p. Abi has the cutest little giggle like really little. If you met her it would be love at first sight J. You’re life will never be same again. And I’m not saying this because I’m her mother. Okay maybe I am but it’s been amazing falling in love with her and growing to love her. She’s an individual with a personality of her own. Like she’s a noise junkie and even with all the noise in the neighborhood, she is able to fall asleep and sleep through all sorts of things. She doesn’t really like the light and trying to adjust to it makes the area around her little nose a little red. She spends most of her time in doors. This is an African thing. We tend to keep most babies indoors till maybe around 4 months or even more. But little Abs is quite the adventurer. ;)

 1 month

The little adventurer

Motherhood is one of the most beautiful things in the world but it also comes with it’s challenges. Like the weird baby fat that you can’t seem to loose in the first week like some other mothers. They say you’ll have sleepless nights but nothing ever prepares you for the bloodshot eyes that stare back at you in the mirror. Unless of course you’re an insomniac then you’ll do just fine. I read books and blogs and articles about motherhood and babies but none of them warned me about the first  3 or 4 months when the baby has gas or colic.
A newborn baby’s digestive system isn’t strong enough or prepared for life outside the womb so for the first few months 3 or 4 months to be exact (for some it goes all the way to 5 months), babies have loud growls in their tummies and gas and this is quite painful. Some babies cry for at least two hours straight then they fall asleep. Abi is still going through this phase but she doesn’t cry. She’s a strong girl. But she sometimes sets off a few screams and stuff but when she’s given her pacifier she’s relaxes and forgets about the pain. Strangely this pain usually happens in the night time. I haven’t yet figured out why.
The truth is even with all the challenges, I wouldn’t trade my motherhood experience for anything in the world. There is no place I’d rather be than here with my little miss sunshine.

This has been one of the biggest blessings in my life and I pray to God that I am a good mother and I pray that I am able to raise her in a way that glorifies God.   

She likes making faces too.

There’s a famous soap ad that says “Geisha lasts and last like a mother’s love”. It might not be as popular these days as it used to be when I was growing up. But that soap eventually shrinks into a tiny unusable thing but a mother’s love, NEVER shrinks.  Here are a few things I want to let you know.

I’ll always support your dreams no matter how outrageous or ridiculous they might seem. So always dream big and remember I’m here for you.  I’ll help you build up your self esteem and always remind you of your uniqueness.  And I won’t pull you down or belittle you or your dreams.

I promise not to lead you astray but show you the right way. To guide you, to advice you, to counsel you to teach you and share my knowledge and wisdom with you.

Whenever I discipline you for something you might have done, I’ll tell you why I’m disciplining you and I’ll remind you that I love you and I discipline you because I love you and I want you to do the right thing.

The truth is my dear, the world is a cruel place and you’ll meet people who love you and people who don’t. Be kind to all and show compassion to all even those who might seem harsh and difficult. The world is a wounded place which makes it cruel. When you add hurt to this world you make it even more wounded. Add love, happiness, kindness, joy to the world, you will be helping to heal this wounded world bit by bit.

Do not take what doesn’t belong to you but instead ask for what you need and respect other people’s property. Work hard to get what you need. They say “hard work pays”. Yes it pays and it also adds personal satisfaction.

People will come into your life for different reasons and each reason will be a lesson to learn. And not all lessons are great but they all teach us something. So, respect everyone and do not look down on anyone because everyone is important.

Prayer is very important. There is a famous hymn we sing called “What a friend we have in Jesus” there’s a part that says “Oh, what peace we often forfeit, Oh, what needless pain we bear, All because we do not carry Everything to God in prayer!” Even when we don’t have an immediate answer, it is a sweet feeling to know that we have placed everything in the hands of the one person who has an amazing master plan.

A relationship with the almighty God is the most important relationship you can ever have. All the rest come second to that one. So give it priority. Walk with the Lord and let Him guide your every move and strive to grow deeper into fellowship with.

Remember to always have fun. Laugh as often as you can and never let the sadness that comes with sad times last for a long time. Always look on the bright side and find a reason to smile. Treasure each moment and live each moment as it comes. It might not be there forever. Remember to spread sunshine and happiness in people’s lives.

Remember that I will always love you. No matter what happens, and no matter what you might do. I love you and I am here for you.

Yours deeply,
Mommy.